Too often white women friends cling to an image of perfection. Their racism shatters that image, and they can’t face it.

A white woman and black woman laughing, sharing blanket, photo torn

I joked in a comment on someone’s Medium story that I can only get to first base in my friendships with white women. The more I think about it, the less funny it is, though. Rachel Ricketts summed it up perfectly.

“…no one has caused me more harm in my…

Perspectives from an adoptee on “having” children

Two pregnant women touching their bellies, a white mother and Asian child on other side

According to the Adoption Network, only 2% of families in the United States adopt children. This clearly means 98% don’t. I would like to understand about this 98%, and I am also curious about families or individuals who choose, and I mean really choose adoption. What I mean is that…

Now I think they let racism and white supremacy off the hook

Brown man with hand to the camera

After I was accepted into Mount Holyoke College I remember having a small conversation about it with my friend’s mom, a white woman. She said, “Well, you’re talented, you’re smart, you’re black. I’m sure Mount Holyoke College bent over backward to get you there.” I felt a small pang. …

They both have pebbles. Uncovering the exaggeration and lies of Plymouth Rock

Trans woman standing in water, wearing white dress, rocks behind

On Thanksgiving, my Dad and I watched Plymouth/Patuxet’s National Day of Mourning on Livestream. It was a deeply moving and inspiring event to honor Native Peoples and dispel the myths associated with Thanksgiving. The popular myth divorces Thanksgiving…

Riley in Midnight Mass is White Male Boring Summer

White man leaning back in chair, words “boring” beside him

I’m gonna sound like a hater right now, but I promise you, I’m not. Well, maybe just a little. I just have to wonder, how many times will cinema place a very boring white man as the protagonist? I mean, someone…

MJ Adia

Black-Filipina. Lived in Peru for 5 years. LICSW, dancer, meditator. Writes about multiculturalism, cinema, race, social issues.

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