Let’s break down the idea that black people can’t be racist — A glutton for self-flagellation, a black friend of mine decided to watch an entire interview with Candace Owens. He almost made it through. I tried to watch a little. I couldn’t stomach it. I thought I could tolerate her since she is, like me, a black woman. Then I quickly…

Too often white women friends cling to an image of perfection. Their racism shatters that image, and they can’t face it. — I joked in a comment on someone’s Medium story that I can only get to first base in my friendships with white women. The more I think about it, the less funny it is, though. Rachel Ricketts summed it up perfectly. “…no one has caused me more harm in my…

Perspectives from an adoptee on “having” children — According to the Adoption Network, only 2% of families in the United States adopt children. This clearly means 98% don’t. I would like to understand about this 98%, and I am also curious about families or individuals who choose, and I mean really choose adoption. What I mean is that…

Now I think they let racism and white supremacy off the hook — After I was accepted into Mount Holyoke College I remember having a small conversation about it with my friend’s mom, a white woman. She said, “Well, you’re talented, you’re smart, you’re black. I’m sure Mount Holyoke College bent over backward to get you there.” I felt a small pang. …

The assumption that thinness, narrow features, and wealth=trustworthiness might bite you in the butt You know, I hate to say it, but when people fall for racism, jump into a big vat of it, and then start drowning, I let out a full-throated laugh. White supremacy is the flipside of…

Is Chicago overshadowing equality for BIPOC while upholding LGBTQ rights? I visited my sister in Chicago, and I can definitely see the city’s appeal. Blue rivers and lakes, good dining, fantastic architecture. One of my first thoughts was, ‘This city is so clean!’ …

Let’s look at the US’s obsession with fairness and tit-for-tat when eating out with friends and family: Is this another symptom of Call-Out Culture? When I was around twenty-two, I visited one of my good college friends in her home country, Nepal. Frequently we would go out to eat, along…

My two cents on the We Believe signs, maybe they share the same conceptual base as All Lives Matter Ok, everyone. It’s been two years. Two years since George Floyd’s murder. And according to research, there is a decline in support for police accountability, reform, and defunding among all racial…

There are three things anyone who watches murder mysteries will know, but the fourth is that white men often get the benefit of the doubt. I am about 6:38 minutes into a series The Staircase, and I can’t help it, I had to open up Medium and start writing. WTF…