Too often white women friends cling to an image of perfection. Their racism shatters that image, and they can’t face it.

A white woman and black woman laughing, sharing blanket, photo torn

I joked in a comment on someone’s Medium story that I can only get to first base in my friendships with white women. The more I think about it, the less funny it is, though. Rachel Ricketts summed it up perfectly.

“…no one has caused me more harm in my…

Perspectives from an adoptee on “having” children

Two pregnant women touching their bellies, a white mother and Asian child on other side

According to the Adoption Network, only 2% of families in the United States adopt children. This clearly means 98% don’t. I would like to understand about this 98%, and I am also curious about families or individuals who choose, and I mean really choose adoption. What I mean is that…

Now I think they let racism and white supremacy off the hook

Brown man with hand to the camera

After I was accepted into Mount Holyoke College I remember having a small conversation about it with my friend’s mom, a white woman. She said, “Well, you’re talented, you’re smart, you’re black. I’m sure Mount Holyoke College bent over backward to get you there.” I felt a small pang. …

Gender and race hierarchy in series ‘Unbelievable’, based on a true story of a victim of police misconduct and sexual assault

Officers in in front of a car, white women’s heads painted on

This article is not an attempt to dismiss any weight of the harm towards rape survivors, so don’t take my focus on gender intersecting with race as disinterest in the terror of sexual violence. If you haven’t seen Unbelievable (Grant et. al., 2019), you may want to stop reading now…

MJ Adia

Black-Filipina. Lived in Peru for 5 years. LICSW, dancer, meditator. Writes about multiculturalism, cinema, race, social issues.

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